Perhaps you will eventually realize that not all questions  have answers, nor do all answers have questions. Which came first, the chicken or the egg? A young man replied to me when I asked about his tastes in sexual partners, "They must be male, shorter than I, wider than I, and at least twice my age." I asked him why. "I don't know," he said, thus earning my respect not only for his  candor, but also for his wisdom. He knew that he did not know, and admitted it. His feelings were an answer without a question.  In the same way does a young heterosexual accept his sexual orientation without question, the difference being that no one  will ever seriously ask him why. Having had much experience of presumed "authorities" such as some of the "experts" called to testify in court (just watch Court TV), I have learnt to respect highly the person who answers, "I don't know, but I will give it some thought," and then afterward prefaces his conclusions with "perhaps."