Silverfoxesclub-digest
Monday, January 22 2001
Volume 01 : Number 115

In this issue:

Re: A Link To Life (6)
Listen Well To This Dog Story
Have You Heard The Latest News?
National Hugging Day
Re: hotels in palm springs (2)
HR Memo
Thanks

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From: Robert Feinstein harlynn@panix.com
Subject: A Link To Life

I'd like to thank our special Ben Boxer for this wonderful list, and for his continuously making sure I'm a part of it, despite my being blind. From the beginning, he always had a kind word to say about Harley, and that means a lot!

I also want to thank Dick for writing a tribute to Harley; he deserves it, and gets most of the credit for our excellent teamwork.

I wanted to share something with you guys, because it is directly related to me and Harley as a team. To be as brief as possible, I had met a guy who I was really turned on by. He felt the same about me and we got together a few times a month. The reason was sexual; we did not have too much in common, but our liasons were enjoyable. However, they will no longer take place because, our last outing showed that this guy does not like dogs or have patience with Harley. We went to a restaurant and Harley was under the table; he kept putting his head on the guy's lap, which annoyed the guy. I moved Harley and put him near my seat, so he could not reach the guy. When we got ready to leave, Harley stood up, and was blocking the way for this guy to go and pay the check. He became impatient with Harley and told him to move in a not very kind voice. I told him that Harley had no way of knowing where to move, and that he was just standing and waiting for me to get my coat on.

When we got back to my place, we had a last encounter, because I will no longer get together with this person. I will not have a friend, or even an acquaintance, who disrespects Harley. When we got back, Harley just went into a corner and lay down, and this made me feel awful. He is too important for me to brush aside his feelings just to get some sexual relief.

I feel good about my decision. I know not everyone loves dogs, and I respect that, but I will not accept anyone being unkind, or impatient with Harley.

Bob and Harley
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From: RogueKC@AOL.COM
Subject: Re: A Link To Life

WOW, fellows, what a lovely missive! Thank you for sharing this lesson with us. Yes, certainly, Bob and Harley are quite a pair, as those of us even remotely familiar with Bob can attest. I protest, however, for I hate it when an E-mail makes me cry. Now stop it.

I'm wondering if Harley can teach my two worthless, wonderful cats how to do anything. They're great at eating and surrounding me while I sleep, but on a leash they're painfully uncooperative, and they have a tendency to ignore traffic signals.

Terry in KC
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From: "J T" gabbey69@hotmail.com
Subject: Re: A Link To Life

Dick:
Thanks for sharing it. It is so true. Having met both Bob and Harley I must say what you have written is so true. JT
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From: dick pan pandick_2000@yahoo.com
Subject: Re: A Link To Life

Club members,
Bob tells me Harley was trained at a small school in Cassville, NY. - Freedom Guide Dogs. Seems there are a lot of schools around the country providing guide dogs. There is a list on the Seeing Eye web site - FAQ.

Dick
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From: "Ben Boxer" benboxer@mediaone.net
Subject: Re: A Link To Life

I'd like to thank you, Bob, for being on the list and contributing so many interesting and enlightening posts to our widening circle of friendship. I do understand that you personally are semi-literate and that Harley does most of the writing for you, so my thanks definitely include him. You must be very grateful for the computer voice program that interprets his barks as human speech and writes the e-mail for you. Or does he type them himself?

My thanks also to Dick for kissing up to Harley. I guess he's seen the picture of Harley sharpening his fangs on that guy's butt who treated him like a piece of doggie doodoo. Love me, love my dog, by golly, OR ELSE! We won't tell anybody Harley got special training by the Mafia hit squad that holds classes in the basement of your building in Brooklyn. Let the next dumb-ass who degrades him find out for himself!

All seriousness aside, I as a dog lover fully understand that you can tell a lot about a person by the way they treat animals. I once owned a King cobra....oh, well, I guess that's another story! My suggestion is that the next guy who comes down hard on Harley gets a personal intro to the tiger you keep in the back closet. Isn't that Harley's "pussy cat"?
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From: DADDYHSD@webtv.net
Subject: Re: A Link To Life

Ben, and Club Members
Greetings from Sunny San Diego

I just wanted to say that I am fortunate to be associated with a group like ours the messages that are sent make me laugh and sometimes make me misty. Thank you all for being who you are

Hank
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From: dick pan pandick_2000@yahoo.com
Subject: Listen Well To This Dog Story

Yes, and it's well you'll be if you do. Well satisfied, well entertained, and, well, just damn Well! All that's needed is a ready ear and an bit of time: Go to Ben's Silverfoxes Clubhouse and listen to the audio tape: "King Of Hearts". Ben wrote it. Ben reads it. It turns on a soft light of tenderness in your heart and illuminates a sweet melancholy in your soul. We need that now and then. It is a dog story. It is a Man story. And, man what a story it is!

Dick
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From: Bob.Nobles.bnobles@isoa.net
Subject: Have You Heard The Latest News?

Have you Heard the Latest News? GIST TV news Dish Network to Serve Up Gay TV Jan 17, 2001 - Gay TV is headed to a home near you - or even your own if you are a subscriber to the Dish Satellite Network, which plans to launch the new Gay Television Network on Feb. 2. The gay-themed cable network will launch with enough programming to fill seven 12-hour days per week and will include news, information and entertainment geared specifically toward the interests of gay and lesbian viewers. Among the initial batch of GTV shows is a morning talk show titled Good Morning, Gay America. The net plans to beef up its lineup with such original fare as Gay Dating Game, Gay Court and Gay Bandstand. It will also offer a minimum of 40 movies per month, including such titles as Claire de Lune, Latin Boys Go to Hell, Edward II and A Boy Named Sue. The network will also target sports enthusiasts in the gay community by covering events like the Gay Olympics, gay rodeos and the Nabisco (Dinah Shore) Golf Tournament in addition to gay-themed political conferences and pride marches all over the nation. The new GTN Dish offering will fall under the satellite net's Premium Choice banner, meaning it will cost viewers an additional $19.95 per month over the amount they are already paying for their basic subscriber package.

-Art Smith, Gist TV Staff
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From: Edward eho01@alumni.poly.edu
Subject: National Hugging Day

Today is National Hugging Day in the US. Have you given a silverfox/foxhunter/bear a hug today?

Edward
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From: "Pewit" pewit@compuserve.com
Subject: Re: hotels in palm springs...

Alan
I can recommend the Alexander Resort but if you're into Bears (and want a highly charged atmosphere) then I am told that 55 Warm Sands is the place to stay.

Details of both on my Guide below.

If you want more information about other places to stay then I can recommend the masterfiles at www.outandabout.com - they give proper reviews and ratings for the gay guesthouses and even a "sexual temperature " gauge so you can get an idea of what the place is like. They cost $10 but are very valuable IMHO.

Regards
Pewit
Editor of The Gray Gay Guide
The online guide to places for mature gay men and their admirers worldwide
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From: TruthBear@AOL.COM
Subject: Re: Palm Springs

Hi guys,
Living in Palm Springs, (and loving it), I can tell you a few places to stay. There are two bear oriented guest houses here. The 550, at 550 Warm Sands, and the Desert Bear, at 530 Mel Ave are both nice, small (10 rooms or so) places with very friendly owners and a nice relaxed, clothing optional atmosphere. (most of the Gay guest houses here are clothing optional). Alexander, Sago Palms, Columns and Bacchanal, all in the warm sands area generally draw a mixed age group. CCBC (Cathedral City Boys Club) about 15 minutes from PS, is a large (40 or so rooms) spacious place that draws all ages, shapes and sizes, and is also a place that a lot of locals go to play as they have a nice large pool, huge lawn for lounging, and many weekend events.

The best thing about Palm Springs is that the resident population is between 45 and 50 percent Gay, and the average age of the Gay community here is somewhere around 60. Age is generally not even an issue here, and everyone gets along very well. If you are planning a trip here I will be happy to advise you on restaurants and bars to patronize.

Come and enjoy our sun. Just get here before July unless you like it REALLY hot!

Bob
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From: "I'm in" denver49@yahoo.com
Subject: HR Memo

Hi Guys,
This is my first submission, so I hope it gets there ok and is readable. It's a joke (lots of dirty words), but very funny.

Steve
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INTEROFFICE MEMORANDUM
TO: ALL EMPLOYEES
FROM: Human Resources

It has been brought to management's attention that some individuals throughout the company have been using foul language during the course of normal conversation with their coworkers. Due to complaints received from some employees who may be easily offended, this type of language will be no longer be tolerated.

We do however, realize the critical importance of being able to accurately express your feelings when communicating with coworkers. Therefore, a list of "TRY SAYING" new phrases has been provided so that proper exchange of ideas and information can continue in an effective manner without risk of offending our more sensitive employees.

SO...

TRY SAYING
"Perhaps I can work late."
INSTEAD OF
"When the fuck do you expect me to do this?"

TRY SAYING
"I'm certain that is not feasible."
INSTEAD OF
"No fucking way!!"

TRY SAYING
"Really?"
INSTEAD OF
"You've got to be shitting me."

TRY SAYING
"Perhaps you should check with . . . ."
INSTEAD OF
"Tell someone who gives a shit."

TRY SAYING
"Of course I'm concerned."
"INSTEAD OF
"Ask me if I give a shit."

TRY SAYING
"I wasn't involved in the project."
INSTEAD OF
"It's not my fucking problem."

TRY SAYING
"That's interesting."
INSTEAD OF
"What the fuck?!?!"

TRY SAYING
"I'm not sure I can implement this."
INSTEAD OF
"Fuck it. It won't work."

TRY SAYING
"I'll try to schedule that."
INSTEAD OF
"Why the hell didn't you tell me sooner?"

TRY SAYING
"Are you sure this is a problem?"
INSTEAD OF
"Who the fuck cares?"

TRY SAYING
"He's not familiar with the problem."
INSTEAD OF
"He's got his head up his ass."

TRY SAYING
"Excuse me, sir?"
INSTEAD OF
"Eat shit and die, Motherfucker."

TRY SAYING
"So, you weren't happy with it?"
INSTEAD OF
"Kiss my ass."

TRY SAYING
"I'm a bit overloaded at this moment."
INSTEAD OF
"Fuck it! I'm on salary."

TRY SAYING
"I don't think you understand."
INSTEAD OF
"Shove it up your ass!"

TRY SAYING
"I love a challenge."
INSTEAD OF
"This job sucks."

TRY SAYING
"You want me to take care of that?"
INSTEAD OF
"Who the hell died and made you boss?"

TRY SAYING
"I see."
INSTEAD OF
"Blow me."

TRY SAYING
"Yes, we really should discuss it."
INSTEAD OF
"Another fucking meeting!!!"

TRY SAYING
"I don't think this will be a problem."
INSTEAD OF
"I really don't give a shit."

TRY SAYING
"He's somewhat insensitive."
INSTEAD OF
"He's a fucking prick."

TRY SAYING
"She's an aggressive go getter."
INSTEAD OF
"She's a ball-busting bitch."

TRY SAYING
"I think you could use more training."
INSTEAD OF
"You don't know what the fuck you're doing."
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From: "David" dmcdonald53@earthlink.net
Subject: Thanks

Dear Ben,
I recently re-subscribed to your list and wanted to thank you for the time and effort you devote to it.

I'm single again and really look forward to receiving all the messages.

I don't post often but I feel included in a community by reading the messages, enjoying the humor and seeing the wonderful images shared with the group. From a very early age, I enjoyed the company of older men and appreciated their physical images.

I particularly appreciated the message from Harley and the follow-up correspondence. His letter made my eyes misty, too. Pets and animals in general are very important to me. He who loves me must love the critters in my life.

Keep up the good work.

A chubby bear in Savannah
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