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Silverfoxesclub-digest
Sunday, January 14 2001
Volume 01 : Number 107

In this issue:

-Re: HELP I need ADVICE badly!! (11)
-Re: Can anyone help
-Fwd: Funnies of the Day - January 13, 2001
-TOP TEN THINGS THAT SOUND DIRTY
-Chicago police in alleged antigay attack
-Army brass
-My compliments to the posters (3)

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From: "Mark" o4m@worldnet.att.net
Subject: Re: HELP I need ADVICE badly!!

One of the great things about the internet is that you hear things that don't make any sense but are reality for someone else out there. I think Jason that might be kind of late to try to stop the abuse from your lover I am also a young men and was in a loving relationship with a man that I still love, when it got to the point that I had not to be my self in order to be in that relationship , I opted to break it, even though it hurt a lot. You don't have many options at this point, you either put up with it , or just put a stop to it. What ever makes sense to you, take a look at yourself in the mirror and make a decision. Hope it helps My .02 cents Mark
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From: "J T" gabbey69@hotmail.com

Jason:
As adultws we need to respect each other. It sounds like you enjoy the submissive role. I would talk to him as an adult - this dad - kid relationship is always a difficult one. No one should be in a subordinate role if they do not want it. Are you sure that your partner is not becoming slightly senile and living in his own world at this age that could be happening. If that is the case he may need to get some help and as a physician sometimes you may be to close to the case to see the subtle changes that go on with Alzheimer's or senility

JT
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From: r j spanks4thememories@yahoo.com

Gentlemen,
Thank you so much for your input. I've decided that I'm going to go to brunch tomorrow and talk this out in a public place. Talk privately but have the environment of a restaurant so there won't be any shouting, etc. I do NOT enjoy being spanked. If it is a sexual turn on for him, I don't mind indulging him in that spirit. ie. he not spank me when he's angry, there is no "punishment" aspect to it and he doesn't leave marks, etc. I don't mind letting him "spank" me as a part of foreplay. I'm sure there may be things that he doesn't enjoy that he does because I like them sexually. That is the way I want to put it to him. If it is too much during foreplay that I have the ability to stop it with no arguments. The spanking should be a sexual turn on for him only, with no REAL pain for me. Tell me what you guys think of this approach. Thanks again for all the good advice, I should have asked this group long ago!

Jason
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From: "Digital Artistry" deusex@earthlink.net

Jason,
Sounds to me like you need to have a serious heart to heart with your partner about the roles you both play in the relationship. If he can't understand the situation I think that either you need to find another form of employment or kick the old fool out. I'm serious here, don't get me wrong, I understand that you love the guy but it's obviously taking its toll on you and as a doctor you have a responsability to your patients. If it is embarassing you this much, if it's actually leaving physical marks on you and causing you pain you can't honestly say that it isn't on your mind when you're supposed to be taking care of your patients. As such you're doing them a terrible injustice. If the man is 70 years old and is unable to see the reality of this then he's got serious problems that he needs to seek help for. You enabling him is not helping in the slightest. Does he claim to love you? If he does and he can't see how stupid and rediculious he's acting then he's lieing to you when he says that and you're better off without him. Why don't you try wacking him upside the rear end with a belt a few times, maybe that's just what he wants. No, seriously though, that isn't a healthy relationship for anyone to be in at all. Espically with you being in a position of such authority over the lives of other people. You have to do what is best for you first of course but you have to be pretty damned sure you're not jeopardizing your client's in the process and frankly, any 70 year old man who SERIOUSLY thinks he has a right to take a belt to another grown man is not wrapped too tightly. If it is in your power, get the man to a qualified psychiatric professional.
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From: "Jack Futrell" jax365@earthlink.net

I didn't think I would ever write but I just saw a letter advocating you "take it"like the good obedient boy that you are. If I'm not mistaken you didn't get into this relationship knowing that you would be spanked so hard that you have welts --It's one thing to be spanked playfully for some fun or sexual arousal but if you're not into SO&ME then that isn't right. So what has changed? You certainly haven't. You have been playing your role --the son --and him -his role --the dad -that's all great but after all the love and respect you've shown him, one would think that you don't have to tolerate this. As far as being "grounded" --that went out in the dark ages. The only thing grounded anymore is coffee or pepper!! I certainly don't have the answers but my suggestion would be to have an intervention (just kidding) (there needs to be a little humor in all this) -- my suggestion would be to have a heart to heart talk with him and tell him how much you love, care & respect him and if he feels the same way about you he won't lose control and not insist on spanking you so hard that you have welts and ground you besides. I hope that everything works out for you because it takes two to make a relationship work and at this time the ball (belt) is in his corner. Good luck.

Jack from CA
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From: Hal Whitmore halwhitmore@home.com

Jason,
If I were inclined to give "advice" your own suggestion would be it. I like the idea of the restaurant for a private conversation and would never have thought of it.

I like your willingness to accept the spanking if it is sexual foreplay for him (I'd feel the same way) but not as punishment. You are an adult and the punishment part is silly.

Hal
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From: Hal Whitmore halwhitmore@home.com

I need to correct myself:

Hal Whitmore wrote:

I like your willingness to accept the spanking if it is sexual foreplay for him (I'd feel the same way) but not as punishment. You are an adult and the punishment part is silly.

I stated this too strongly, even if it does represent my own feelings. Before someone else points this out, I should say that if _two_ adults care to enter into a relationship in which one controls the behavior of another in a way usually seen in the relationship between an adult and a child it is their business and none of mine. "If it works, don't fix it."

In this case it appears that Jason did not knowingly enter into such a relationship, and that from his point of view it isn't working.
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From: Edward eho01@alumni.poly.edu

Jason,
If I was you, no matter how much I loved him, I would get out of it immediately. This is the same as spousal abuse, it happens in all relationships. Whether it's the man hitting the woman, the woman hitting the man, the man hitting the man, or the woman hitting the woman, it is still spousal abuse, plain and simple. Some people like it, but that is mutual. Sounds to me that in your situation, it is definitely not mutual. Sorry I may sound strong about this subject, but I've known people (male/female) personally that was in such a situation and have known people that were abused as children.

Edward
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From: "robert felthaus" bkman@earthlink.net

Jason,

I must concur with Edward. This is abuse plain and simple. In the language of the law it is assault. Violence has no place in a healthy relationship nor does being controlled. By being submissive you are taking yourself out of any responsibility for the relationship. If you can't or won't get out then get into some good counseling for both of you.

Bob
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From: "Polar Gizmo" polargizmo@hotmail.com

Wow! I'm a bit jealous. I've tried to get my older papa to do that to me once in awhile but he won't because he doesn't feel comfortable with that, so we move on to more mutually enjoyable things. We've been together for nearly 7 years and I love him dearly, and things like that are of no consequence.

For him to make you feel that you must do this to be with him is just wrong. You need to tell him to respect how you feel about this, and be stern. If your relationship is based on a mutual love for eachother, then you shouldn't have to put up with abusive treatment. Let him know that his anger is destroying your relationship. If you can't resolve this by quiet civilized discussion, not yelling, try seeking outside therapy. And if it's that necessary for him to function, considering telling him to find someone who enjoys being a masochist, with or without you there.

That's my advice, take it or leave it. I sincerely hope things resolve for the better.

PolarGizmo
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From: "boigy" boigy@wt.net

Dear Edward,
I wrote to Jason personally, but I would like to concur with your spousal abuse statement publicly. We, as gays, may think that spousal abuse is merely a Hetero problem, but I don't feel that it is. In Jason's case, he may have began the relationship with light whippings, as fun and a method for arousal. But it has escalated beyond fun and needs some realignment before it goes to far and someone really gets hurt, and I don't mean just whelps. We, as gays, don't have the law to protect us from our LTRs or spouses. We would just be laughed at, much as they are laughing at us wanting the same rights to "life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness" that the non-gay world receives. I publicly wish Jason all the best in his conversation with his love, and do hope they can reach a mutual understanding. But if they don't, like I told Jason, there are plenty of older men who will love him without the pain.

Love Rising in Texas,
Jim
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From: barry@bobsbear.freeserve.co.uk
I,m planing a trip to the states California,can anyone help...(snip)

From: "Pewit" pewit@compuserve.com
Subject: Re: Can anyone help

Hi there
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Regards
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From: "Polar Gizmo" polargizmo@hotmail.com
Subject: Re: Can anyone help

This may not answer your request, but if you're in San Diego, sounds like you need to get to the Vulcan bath house. There's usually a delightful silverfox clientel and can be a great way to spend part of a day.

PG
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Content and From: "Dennis O" irishbear@hotmail.com
Subject: Fwd: Funnies of the Day - January 13, 2001

Hope that everyone is having a nice day!!!!!!!

"Whats My Name?" - Rated G
******
The manager of a large office noticed a new man one day and told him to come into his office. "What's your name?" he asked the new guy.

"John," the new guy replied.

The manager scowled, "Look... I don't know what kind of a namby-pamby place you worked before, but I don't call anyone by their first name. It breeds familiarity and that leads to a breakdown in authority. I refer to my employees by their last name only ... Smith, Jones, Baker ... That's all. I am to be referred to only as Mr. Robertson. Now that we got that straight, what is your last name?"

The new guy sighed, "Darling. My name is John Darling."

"Okay John, the next thing I want to tell you is . . . "
******

QUICKIES - Rated G

Yo' mama is so fat when she walks across the room the radio skips.
******

"Office Humor" - Rated R

An executive was in quandary. He had to get rid of one of his staff. He had narrowed it down to one of two people, Debra or Jack. It would be a hard decision to make, as they were both equally qualified and both did excellent work.

He finally decided that in the morning whichever one used the water cooler first would have to go.

Debra came in the next morning, hugely hungover after partying all night. She went to the cooler to get some water to take an aspirin and the executive approached her and said: "Debra, I've never done this before, but I have to lay you or Jack off."

Debra replied, "Could you jack off, I have a terrible headache."
******

QUICKIES - Rated R

How do you cancel an appointment at the sperm bank?

You call them up and tell them you can't cum!
******

QUICKIES - Rated G

Yo' Mamma's so fat... when she's missing they can't put her on a milk carton, they put her on the milk truck!
******

QUICKIES - Rated R

First guy (proudly): "My wife's an angel!"
Second guy: "You're lucky, mine's still alive."
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From: Leo Bear leobear00@yahoo.com
Subject: TOP TEN THINGS THAT SOUND DIRTY

TOP TEN THINGS THAT SOUND DIRTY, BUT AT THE OFFICE AREN'T:
10. I need to whip it out by 5.
9. Mind if I use your laptop?
8. Just stick it in my box.
7. If I have to lick one more, I'll gag!
6. I want it on my desk, NOW!!!!!
5. HMMMMMMMMM, I think it's out of fluid!
4. My equipment is so old, it takes forever to finish.
3. It's an entry-level position. 2. When do you think you'll be getting off today?

And the number 1 thing that sounds dirty but at the office it isn't:
1. It's not fair. I do all the work while he just sits there!!!

TOP TEN THINGS THAT SOUND DIRTY, BUT IN LAW AREN'T:
10. Have you looked through his briefs?
9. He is one hard judge!
8. Counselor, let's do it in chambers.
7. Her attorney withdrew at the last minute.
6. Is it a penal offense.
5. Better leave the handcuffs on.
4. For $200 an hour, he better be good!
3. Can you get him to drop his suit?
2. The judge gave her the stiffest one he could.

And the number 1 thing that sounds dirty but in law isn't 1. Think you can get me off?

TOP TEN THINGS THAT SOUND DIRTY BUT IN GOLF AREN'T:
10. Damn, my shaft is bent.
9. After 18 holes, I can barely walk.
8. You really whacked the hell out of that sucker.
7. Look at the size of his putter.
6. Keep your head down and spread your legs a bit more.
5. Mind if I join your threesome?
4. Stand with your back turned and drop it.
3. My hands are so sweaty I can't get a good grip.
2. Nice stroke, but your follow-through leaves a lot to be desired.

And the number 1 thing that sounds dirty but in golf isn't:
1. Hold up! I need to wash my balls first!

Leo
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From: "Ben Boxer" benboxer@mediaone.net
Subject: Chicago police in alleged antigay attack

Headline:
Federal lawsuit filed against Chicago police in alleged antigay attack
(The Advocate, 01/13/01)

Text:
A heterosexual man who said he was beaten by off-duty Chicago police officers after he embraced a friend outside a bar filed a federal lawsuit Thursday asking for $3 million in damages, the Chicago Tribune reports.

Tim Cavenagh, an attorney for the alleged victim, Jeffery Lyons, said one officer yelled, "Get that faggot shit away from my truck," before that officer and others began beating and kicking Lyons.

Three of the officers were placed on desk duty in November in connection with the alleged attack, but they were placed back on the street when Lyons could not identify them in a line-up. The suit names those three officers as well as other unknown officers.

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From: "Dave C...." southern_son69@hotmail.com
Subject: ~~~Army Brass~~~

This is an actual story, just to let all of my other SilverFox Hunters that dreams DO come true!! The person to whom I had forwarded this story had asked me how high I had gone up in the "Officer" Chain (U.S. Army), and I responded by saying...

The highest brass I've had was a "Full Bird", met at the Gym on Base, talked a bit then hit the showers. I had no idea what was to come next!!!!

There we were, in the shower all alone at 11 PM one evening...I got in first, gave myself a quick rinse, then lathered up my cock and balls (it's the first thing I wash)..then he walks in..he saw me stare at his pecker (an 8 incher) right off the bat, since he didn't comment, I just turned away a bit and thought that there was no way in hell I'd be that lucky...

He started talking some more about himself, told me he was here on a TDY trip, was supposed to be here for a little under 6 months and that he'd already been here a whole 2 weeks (!). He gave me the usual "I miss the family" lines, and that he missed having sex with his wife the most. I told him that there were plenty of women available out in the city--which he quickly responded to as him not being the type that had sex with women he didn't know due to the risk of catching a disease. I then thought that maybe he wouldn't want to get it on with a man either because he hadn't known me that long..

"Proddingly", I told him that there were certain "people" on base that I knew for a fact were clean and that more than certainly he could get laid the instant he wanted it to happen. He was soaping up his cock and balls and noticed him get a hardon. He asked if I thought "these people" could handle a 54 year old Colonel who hadn't gotten laid in over a month now..and I quickly responded to him by saying that he'd be the one "lacking" in any way. I thought he was going to shoot his wad right there, but, he quit playing with it (saving it up for later, you know how old guys are...)

We quickly washed off, got dried off, and went outside where I followed him to his room. As soon as we got in there, he gave me a Gin and Tonic and chatted some more. He asked me about "those" people who I was talking about--and I said the hell with it-I'd give him anything he wanted. He asked me if I was a "swallower" or a "spitter", and I quickly told him that I'd swallow every drop of cream he could spit out..He dipped his cock into my drink and had me lick gin and tonic off of his cockhead..which was big and beautiful!! He asked if I had ever eaten ass before, and I told him I had a couple of trophies for doing so back at my apartment..He wanted a demonstration so I gave it to him. He had a nice little furry asshole which took my finger in it real easily. I opened up his cheeks and stuck my tongue into it as far as it'd go in. The feeling of having his nice big balls hitting my chin while I was eating his ass caused my cock to shoot out a wad of precum to which he asked me if I had cum already--I said hell no! I was trying to feel him up his belly and chest to get a feel of his nipples which were already standing at attention. I was playing with them and felt his whole body quiver in pleasure--my tongue in his ass and my fingers pinching his nipples..what else could a man ask for????

I asked him if he had ever taken a nice stiff cockin his ass and he said he hadn't up to that point in his life, but that he was looking forward to it whenever it did happen. Luckily, I had picked up some rubbers earlier that day. When he saw me putting it on, he asked if I minded not using one because he wanted to experience the whole thing--and he had read that rubbers didn't feel "natural". Hell, a Colonel? I threw the fucker away and lubed my cock up. I made him get on all fours and I got behind him and shoved my hot cock right into his eager little hole. I'm sure it hurt him like hell for about 10 seconds then I told him to relax a little. Once he loosened up his ass muscle, I gave it a little push in and he screamed out "Jesus"..Just the way I like it, I like it when they feel the pain but love every second of it. I grabbed him by his sides and started pushing in and pulling out a bit, massaging it a little. His ass was so nice and warm, and my cock wanted to shoot out a load of cum so badly, but I held back and was going to give him a very good fucking.I made him lay in his belly and I kept on fucking him for a couple of minutes.

One thing that turns me on is while I'm fucking an older guy, I love seeing his neck, counting the wrinkles and looking at his hair and ears, grey hair really turns me on. I was looking at his back also, real nice skin all the way down to his ass which at the time was being fucked nice and hard. I looked at my own cock going into a Colonel's ass and thought to myself--You lucky bastard!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Finally, I couldn't contain it any longer, so I told him that he had better get ready for a load of cum to be pumped into him and I let it out. I roared as my cock spat out a couple of ounces of cum, and I shot it all inside of him. His fucking ass was going crazy...I knew he had never gotten fucked before and he couldn't have asked a better fucker than me to do it to him..

He told me he was ready to shoot his wad out also, so I asked him to go wash his ass first so that he could sit on my face while he jacked off..When he returned, he got over me, put his ass on my face and jacked off. The feeling of his nuts hitting my chin was enough to give me a hardon again, so I joined him in jacking off. He got up a little, just enough to feel his nuts just barely hitting my face and I felt his whole body quiver--I quickly asked him to shoot it into my mouth, so he put his cock right in front of my mouth and let out such a shot of cum, I guess he hadn't had an orgasm in some time because he gave me plenty of it. I quickly came myself and shot cum all over my chest..a small amount even made it onto his back!!

After all this, we laid in bed for a while and talked some more. Lucky for me, he was going to be around for a while longer, so we had our usual sessions--at least 4 times a week. He came over to my apartment most of the time, I gave him some drinks and put a movie on the VCR...didn't take much to get his old horny ass get all worked up. This guy was Army, the type that looked like an "Army" type also--rough face, big "man" hands, the type you don't find on somebody that sits behind a desk all day. He might be coming back in a couple of months (we keep in contact via e-mail). Even if he doesn't, he said I could go visit him back home...he even offered to pay for my way to go see him. He's since gotten separated from his wife and lives by himself. He's retiring pretty soon...

Can't wait til we meet again...

David
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From: "Ben Boxer" benboxer@mediaone.net
Subject: My compliments to the posters

This has become a busy list with a sizeable membership in just a short time -- 3 1/2 months, to be exact. I would like to compliment the growing army of posters for their restraint in dealing with some very sensitive threads.

I have witnessed on other lists how careless remarks can fuel a brush fire which escalates quickly into a major conflagration. None of you has been that careless. Thank you.

To those whom I may have reprimanded in private -- and there are damn few of you, amazingly -- please try to remember that my job as list manager is to put out fires before they start. I have no animus toward you on the personal level. Judgment in each situation is necessarily my call.

I have but one goal: to maintain a harmonious and relatively peaceful environment where men may express themselves freely like gentlemen while having fun like rowdies who yet remain aware of their responsibility not to tear up the joint as if they were part of a bar brawl in a John Wayne film.

So belly up to the bar, boys. The drinks are on the house -- unless the Clubhouse mascot, Studly, beats you to the beer.
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From: "Ben Boxer" benboxer@mediaone.net
Subject: Competition at the bar

Alert member Big-ol-Bearcub@webtv.net has just advised me that you guys better hustle on over to the bar. You've got more competition there than Studly the virtual silver fox. See attached bear-and-honey gif. And don't let the honeypot fool you -- the Egyptians made their beer from fermented honey and water, the same way mead, a strong alcoholic beverage, was produced in the Middle Ages.

Some of you silverfoxes who served as Occupationaires in Japan after WW II may remember the socially despised "eta" who were employed in the Asian (Japan, China, etc.) custom of going from house to house in the early morning to collect "night soil" (human excrement) from domestic chamber pots in buckets swinging on a pole laid across their shoulders, which they called "honeypots." Hmmm. That gives a whole new meaning to getting "shit-faced" when you think of beer made from honey, doesn't it? Not to mention the etas who also collected human urine for use in tanning leather. To tell the truth, as a teetotaler I find that beer tastes like piss to me!

Drink up, fellas!
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From: Larry Elwyn veryeager@yahoo.com
Subject: Re: My compliments to the posters (part 2)

Thank you, Ben....for your wise words of wisdom!!

I'll have a second beer, thank you!!

hic

Larry
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