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Silverfoxesclub-digest
Sunday, December 10 2000
Volume 01 : Number 071-2

In this issue:

-Re: Our wishes for your safety in the U.K.
-Holidays hard when you lose your mate (3)

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Date: Sat, 9 Dec 2000 11:01:07 -0800
From: "Ben Boxer"

Subject: Re: Our wishes for your safety in the U.K.

I was struck by a couple of points Pewit made in his posting about flooding in England.

1) ...we build in what were flood plains of rivers - and then wonder why the water floods the area. In fact the government had recently designated one of the badly flooded areas for housing development, such is the pressure for homes in the South East of England.

2) ...if these poor people were under-insured before it means they are going to be un-insurable in the future.

Pewit is speaking here of England, but the same problem exists elsewhere in the world. The coastal plains of Bangladesh are periodically flooded and swept away by devastating monsoons, but the press of overpopulation demands rebuilding in the same area. Harder to understand is the rebuilding of luxurious homes in such enclaves of wealth as certain areas of Southern California, repeatedly ravaged by wildfires, and along the coast of the Carolinas on the eastern seaboard of the U.S.A., wiped out time and again by hurricanes.

Pewit's second point, dealing with insurance, covers the financial part of an answer, but not the mind-set of people who can perfectly well afford to relocate, but don't. Why? Because they can easily afford the hike in insurance rates after each widespread disaster.

The quintessential example of this class of thinking may be a Hungarian-born, once glamorous film star, the much-married Zsa Zsa Gabor.

Several years ago when I lived in Southern California, the lady's home near Los Angeles burnt to the ground in a fire that consumed dozens of luxury-class homes. She and most of the others rebuilt on the same spot, which was struck again by wildfires several years later, and today features multi-million-dollar mansions which will probably bite the dust again. Go figure! Of course, In Zsa Zsa's case, it is perhaps a different matter. All she has to do is marry again. She once spoke of herself as "an excellent housekeeper...I have kept the house of every man I ever divorced!"
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Date: Sat, 9 Dec 2000 09:31:47 -0800 (PST)
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Subject: Holidays hard when you lose your mate

Hi,
This is Joe. The one who lost his LifeMate in September. I am not tryin' to be ignorant, but, me & my Mom have a very close relationship, along with the rest of the Family. I think I hurt my Mom by saying I would not be there for Christmas. I want to be, and, I tried to explain, I have my Life and right now I don't believe I can deal with being alone. I am not trying to hurt anybody. I had a hard of enough ThanksGiving, and I don't know if I can face Christmas. Now, my family is very generous and also know's what I am going through. The first year, along with the Holiday's will be the hardest. I know there is some people who will understand me, but, am I wrong for for being the way I am. I am sorry to be this way, and luckily my Mom is sticking with me. I am not trying to be hard against my Family. I feel, and try to explain the Love I need which cannot be brought on just by family member's. I may be wrong in the way I feel. It might be to soon. I just don't believe I can face this Christmas, and I don't want to hurt anyone. Anyone with an opinion, please tell me.

Thanks,
Joe.
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Date: Sat, 9 Dec 2000 22:53:23 -0500
From: "Digital Artistry"

Subject: Re: Holidays hard when you lose your mate

Hi Joe,
I don't understand, if you don't want to be alone how is not being with your family going to improve that situation? I can't really advise you for what you should do but for me, if it were me in your situation, I think I'd want my family to be around to help me get through the sadness that I would feel. You seem to have a strong loving family relationship, the same as me, so why not reach out to those close to you for the support you need? That's what friends and family are there for after all.

Hugs,
Mike
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Date: Sun, 10 Dec 2000 02:20:05 -0000
From: "J T"

Subject: Re: Holidays hard when you lose your mate

Joe:
I lost my mate in August. I also lost two friends juust prior to that and an aunt last month. I am celebrating Chistmas with the kids and family before christmas and then on Christmas day I am taking off for Florida with a friend. It is also the anniversary day of my wife's death. I do not want to be around here to be alone and with others who may or may not know how it feels. It hurts too much. I have to agree with you wholeheartedly.

John

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